Squirrel Is In

Super hero, no more football, getting older, meeting the new guy and a stripper...

I can't believe it's been almost two weeks since I posted.  Nothing much has happened since that crazy weekend.  City hall is running pretty smoothly thanks to me, Super Squirrel City Hall Super Hero.

I finally got finished balancing 7 months worth of 8 different city fund checking accounts.  There was no city clerk since May hence the huge mess. 

Football season is almost over thank goodness.  No more spending every Saturday looking at that hideous biotch that is my husbands ex. 

My birthday was last week.  I am 41 years young.  Yeah birthdays suck.  But I did get a really nice opal necklace from the hubster.

I finally met my beautiful daughters boyfriend and his kids.  He's a really nice young man and his kids are adorable.

My 21 year old son is dating a stripper.  I think it's just a stage.  You know, there's the terrible two's, those gangly awkward pre teen years, adolesence, then the i'm in love with a stripper years, yadda yadda yadda...  I wonder if he'll bring her to Thanksgiving dinner...

Well that's all I got...

See ya soon.

Squirrel OUT.

Hell I don't even know what to call this one...

Well hello everyone!  Hello, is there anyone out there reading my blog anymore?!  I am soooo sorry for not posting more often!   Will you forgive me if I give you a funny squirrel pic?  After the week I've had this will be me on Saturday morning.  This job is stressing me out!  It wouldn't be so bad but they were without a city clerk for over 3 months and the last one they had hadn't done anything in months.  I am desperately trying to get everything from the 06-07 fiscal year that ended 6/30/07 caught up before the auditors come next month.

Oh and a Rabid Squirrel update:  The BIOTCH took C-man to the hospital and had him checked for sexual assault and reported that my teenage son raped him.  C-man had no idea the she was telling the doctors and police this so the poor kid had to go through his THIRD sexual assault exam in 6 years (she has done this same thing twice before!), before he was able to tell the doctors and the police that nothing had happened and no one had EVER touched his privates.  The officers were so mad at her that they filed a case of filing a false police report on her but the D.A.'s office dismissed the case due to lack of evidence.  They never pick up charges on her because she works as an drug informant for their office.  BTW she said the sexual assault happened the same weekend she punched me.  AND the D.A. dismissed that case against her also!!!!!  So I'm doing the only thing I can to make her suffer which is not answering any of her phone calls and I DID NOT order the BIOTCH any school or football pictures!  HA take that!  The last time she picked up C-man for a visit Hubby said to her "don't you realize you are traumatizing him by having doctors probe him for sexual assault?!  When you know full well he wasn't assaulted!!"  She said "I don't care.  Don't you know you are traumatizing him by taking him away from me?!"  EXCUSE ME LADY, BUT THE KID CRIES EVERY TIME WE TELL HIM HE'S GOT TO GO WITH YOU!!!!!!!

Other news is that we are moving to a bigger house down the street!!! YEAH!  FUNNY SHE MADE THE ASSAULT REPORT THE DAY SHE FOUND OUT WE ARE GETTING A BIGGER AND NICER HOUSE.  CAN YOU SAY JEALOUS AND F*CKING CRAZY?

Sorry I started ranting and raving there for a minute.  I haven't had my blog posting outlet in a while and it all just started flowing out uncontrollably!

C-man's waivering, a planned vacation, new nails, and a cook-out, ..

Something I noticed on Thursday that I kind of found a little disturbing was that C-man knew we had court on Friday and when I picked him up from school the teacher told me he was really, really bad at school.  When we got home I asked him what was wrong and he told me that his mother had told him to act really bad at school to help her get him back.  I asked him if he wanted to go live with her and he said "well she said she would move close to you guys and that she would give me my own cell phone if I lived with her" (who gives a 2nd grader a cell phone?!).  Then Friday when we won custody he didn't act very happy about it.  Somehow I get the feeling that this is not over.  She will probably continue to try and get him to act bad at school and bribe him with things.  I'm sure we have not seen our last day in court.  Hopefully we will at least get a year or two rest though.  It's like we always have this evil force working in our lives just waiting for a chance to pounce.

We are planning a weekend in a cabin at a lake for mid June.  I've already made reservations.  We are taking the kids, it's my moms family reunion so we are taking everyone.  I don't know if my oldest son will be able to get off work.  I really hope so because I don't get to see nearly enough of him.   

My daughter took me and her little 5yr old soon to be step daughter to go get our nails done on Saturday.  I got tips put on because I was so nervous last week I bit all my natural nails off to nubs.  Sunday we went to church and then went over to my father-in-laws house for a a cook out to celebrate us winning custody of C-man.  The boys rode the 4-wheeler and a little motorcycle all afternoon.  Now it's Monday and they are all gone off to work and to school and I'm sitting here in the middle of a huge mess that they made.  And I DO NOT WANT TO CLEAN IT UP!!!

Thanks everyone for all the happy comments on my last post!!!!

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WE WON!!!!!!!!!!!!

She gave up before we ever even went into court!!!!!  We gave up the child support in exchange for sole custody.  She gets standard visitation (the judge said she would have gotten that anyway) and we get to claim him on our income taxes every year.  And I didn't have to testify!!  My palms were sweating I was so freaking nervous.  We had the chief of police there to be a character witness, we also had the school counselor there who also goes to church with us there.  We were all set to battle and she gave in.  Thank you all for all your words of support over the past year.  Actually some of you have been reading for the past four years, listening to all the horror stories and my frustration. THANK YOU, THANK YOU, THANK YOU!!!!!!!!!!!  I am so relieved I could cry.  I just want to drink champagne and cry for happiness.  Then part of me is like, what the heck am I going to do without having all this stress and worry in my life?  It's been a part of our whole marriage!  We have been fighting that woman in court for our entire marriage.  I just can't believe it's over!

We made it through the war alive!! Click below to watch me dance for joy! LOL

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Court is tomorrow and i'm a wreck!

I know I've really slacked off on posting regularly.  I am so freaked out this week!  The custody hearing is in the morning.  We go to our attorney this afternoon to go over our testimony.  And to make things even more stressfull I HAVE NO IDEA WHAT TO WEAR!!!!  I think i'm going to go shopping tonight and get something.  Having something nice and new might make me feel better.  It's a girl thing I guess.  My stomache has been in knots for days now.  I'm sure we are going to get to keep him but the thought of this little boy having to go back and live over there with those two old women and no daddy there is heartbreaking.  My husband is such a good father.  He is so involved in C-man's life.  When C-man lives with his mother she keeps him away from his dad, she won't answer the phone when he calls, she doesn't tell my husband whats going on in his school activities.  She really alienates him from his son.  Not to mention that she tells him that my husband doesn't love him and he loves my son more.  She is physically and emotionally abusive and we all know that the minute she gets him back she will start doing drugs again.  Personally I don't think she ever stopped smoking pot because just a month ago C-man brought a lighter he found in her bedroom home with him that had a pot leaf on it and she doesn't smoke cigarettes.  Her mother must be taking the urinalisis for her is all I can think of.  Anyway my nerves are shot and that's why i've been bad about visiting blogs and posting.  Hopefully after tomorrow things will be great and all the stress will be gone and I can get back to my normal cheery self! :)

Rainy day reflections...

More rain today and more on it's way.  It's tornado and storm weather in Oklahoma.  Welcome to my world.  I've hardly gotten any sleep the past few nights because all the extremely loud thunder.  This morning the water in the streets was coming up in the yard.  Now it's all sunny and humid.  The birds are chirping like crazy and they are all taking baths in the puddles.  Despite all the rain and the custody trial coming up in the next week I'm in a pretty good mood today.  Yesterday we went and talked to our lawyer and he seemed very optimistic about it.  I'm a little worried about the fact the C-man has had so much trouble in school though.  We know it's because of the weekend visits with his mother because he acts up after her visits.  But a crafty lawyer could put his own spin on things.  I'm also worried that my multiple marriages could make it look like my marriage now can't be relied on.  Which couldn't be further from the truth.  My husband and I are very happy and I am certain this is going to be forever.  And although because of filing taxes together my husband and Rabid had to get divorced, technically I am his first wife.  I am the only woman he has ever been legally married to on paper with a marriage license.  I am trying not to worry about it and to just pray a lot.  I am just scared to get up on the stand and testify.  I get really nervous.  Really nervous doesn't even begin to describe it actually.  I will be so glad when this is over no matter what the outcome.  This past year of court hearings and accusations flying around has really took it's toll on me both physically and mentally.  The stress has been hell.

Update to post from earlier today...

If you haven't read it you might want to go down there and read it first so you'll understand what's going on... I'll wait...

OK now that you're back.

All lawyers don't suck.  Dariana straightened me out on that in the comments section of the previous post. LOL  But most of them do that's for sure!

I called back to the law firm that our lawyer has apparently left.  They tell me today that they ARE NOT going to go to court with us and that I need to call the other attorney at his new office (in another town an hour away!) because he knows our case and he will still be our attorney.  SOOOOO I call that office and I tell her that her attorney WAS our attorney at his previous law firm and had been on our case since May of last year and that his previous law firm just told me that he will still be our lawyer.  The secretary says "Well did you pay him directly or did you pay the firm?"  I said "I paid the firm because thats who HE TOLD ME TO WRITE THE CHECK OUT TO!".  She said she would have him call me when he got out of court.  I called the old law firm back and told them what the lawyers secretary said about who I wrote the check out to and the old law firm secretary promised me that our old attorney was going to stay on our case because he knows it best and she told me not to worry.  I call back our attorney at his new office and told his new secretary what the old secretary said and I made an appointment for tomorrow afternoon.  Are you confused now?  Because I AM!!!  Our attorney is still suppose to call me back this afternoon.  I'll be surprised if it happens.

UPDATE OF THE UPDATE:  I finally got a call from our attorney.  He is staying on the case and told me he sent out letters notifying all his clients, I just didn't get mine yet.  I totally freaked out for nothing.  BIG SIGH OF RELIEF!!!  Now I can relax...

LAWYERS SUCK!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

We have court to determine full custody on the 18th of this month.  Yesterday I had my husband call his attorney to set up an appt.  OUR LAWYER NO LONGER WORKS FOR THE FIRM!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!  No one even contacted us to tell us and we paid THE FIRM in full plus an additional 400.00 for HIS services.  The lawyer who answered the phone WHO'S NAME IS ONE THE BUILDING had no idea we have court in LESS THAN THREE WEEKS!!!!!!!!!!  So this lawyer who knows nothing about our case that has been going on for almost a year now is taking over the case 17 days before our hearing.  Excuse my French but this is a FUCKING NIGHTMARE!!!  Honestly I am in utter and complete shock.  Now I know why I never heard back from our attorney when I tried to contact him a couple weeks ago. And to think that this law firm is suppose to be the best in the county!  Our old attorney was the assistant DA in the neighboring county at one time.  Now we have this lawyer who is CLUELESS and probably doesn't give a rats ass how is all turns out because he's not the one who got paid.  I can't even type anymore about this or i'm going to start crying.

Is this molestation or not?

I am just sick!!!  Remember when we made that police report when C-man's grandmother dragged him out of a closet and banged his head on the bed frame and he told the police officer that his mother smokes weed?  The police officer turned it in to child services and we were so happy. Child services came to our house and C-man told her all about the abuse at his mothers house.  Well the other day WE get a letter stating that the abuse was NOT confirmed and the letter had not just C-mans name on it but MY teen sons name on it too and he wasn't even involved!! AND the letter was addressed to my husband and stated that although the abuse was not confirmed that they reccommend that since there is a history of drug use in OUR home that WE go to counselling.  All this shit happened at my husbands EX's house not OURS!  So I think theres got to be a mistake.  I call Child Services and talk to the supervisor.  She tells me that they know that it happened at her house but we get the same form letter she gets when the investigation is over.  I told her it makes it sound like WE are guilty of child abuse too!  I asked her what would have happened if the abuse at C-mans mothers home would have been confirmed.  She tells me that C-man would have been put into a foster home!!!  Even though the abuse didn't happen at our house and WE were the ones who reported it!!!

Now fastforward one week since I talked to her to last night.  C-man has a rash on his chest so I am asking him what he has put on his body (like cologne or lotion)  he tells me that his mother put blueberry lotion "all over me" after SHE gave him a bath.  He is almost 9 years old and I think it is totally bizzare that she is bathing him and putting lotion "all over" him.  So I asked where does she put lotion on you and he says "all over my naked body even my butt, balls and penis".  He then says he tells her not to but she says she has to so he'll "have soft skin".  Maybe i'm just a prude but I haven't put lotion on my sons private parts since he was about a year and a half old.  I want to call child services on her but my husband is terrified that they will put him in a foster home this time.  So he calls her and tell her not to do it and her response was to yell "I have been doing it since he was a baby and i'm NEVER going to stop!".  She then hung up on him.  My husband just wants to wait and have our lawyer ask her about it on the stand in 4 weeks during the custody hearing.  I am freaking out thinking the crazy bitch is molesting him. My husband got really upset with me when I said I was calling CPS.  He is scared because he says one of two things will happen if I call Child Services. 1. They tell us not to take him over there and they do an investigation.  The judge finds out we aren't letting him go to his mothers like the last time and he get's mad and gives C-man back to his mother and we lose custody.  Last time we turned her in to Child Services they told us not to let him go over there and then they said the abuse was unconfirmed the judge got mad and his mother got more visitation than before and we got seriously chewed out by the judge. OR 2. We turn her in and the findings are confirmed and C-man goes into foster care.  So if I call CPS my husband will probaly lose his son either way and he will divorce me.  He thinks it is not molestation but just a creepy thing she is doing and he thinks now that she knows he knows and is disaproving of it she will stop.  I can't sleep.  Am I making too big a deal of this?

I don't even know what to title this one...

Apparentaly everything went okay over the weekend with C-man at his mothers.  I'm sure they knew better than to hurt him on their first over night visit.

In court on Friday the social worker didn't come to court.  Rabids attorney said that the investigation was complete and the allegations were unfounded.  After court my husband sent an e-mail to the social worker after not being able to get a hold of her by phone asking her if the case was closed.  She sent an e-mail back today saying it was not complete so Rabids attorney lied.  I just sent her an e-mail telling her about the ruling and about Rabids attorney lying about the investigation.  Maybe Child Services can get something done.  Our attorney said that this is the way it's going to turn out anyway with her getting over night every other weekend visits and we might as well accept it.  He also said the judge is getting tired of seeing us in court.  I just feel like i'm in shock.  The DA still has not picked up the charges and issued a warrant on Rabid for child stealing so it looks like she's getting away with that too.  No one wants to protect this child and now it seems like the more we try to the more the judge thinks we're just being mean to Rabid.