Squirrel Is In

Happy New Year to ALL OF YOU!!

Thank all of you wonderful folks who have listened to my rants and raves over the past year.  You all listened to me and held your tongues when I was probably out of line, knowing that I would eventually come to my senses.  You gave me advise when I really, really needed it.  You at times just told me you were praying for me when you didn't know what to say.  Then there are those of you who I know are reading but don't say a word, I know you all care because you keep coming back to check on me.  Thank you.  Thank you all and have a great New Years Eve and New Years Day.  Have a great 2008!

Here's to you!

My eyes are swelled almost shut....

My emotions are all over the place.  Today I can't stop crying because I am so heartbroken.  I just cannot believe he started lying about me.  One minute I just want to move out into my own apartment with T-man to get away from this nightmare. The next I want to just get him back and put him into counseling or maybe an in-patient facility for children.  My mother-in-law suggested that.  Not that I hadn't thought it already, I just hadn't said it out-loud.  My stepson (today I don't know what to call him.  C-man was a term of endearment on this blog and Damien sounds so harsh) is showing signs (more obvious signs) of mental illness or severe emotional problems at the very least, everyday.  His mother is getting a check from SSI for mental illness and so is my husbands real mother.  Maybe he has inherited something.  Or maybe living with his mother for the first 7 years of his life has done such damage that... well I don't want to think it is permanent but it seems like nothing and no amount of love is changing it.  He just seems to be getting more troubled and dangerous.  He absolutely knows what these kind of accusations could do.  We have told him that if his mother tries to get him to lie about us to tell us immediately because one of us could be thrown into prison, that we could lose our jobs and our home.  Yet he went over there and started making false child abuse accusations.  It just seems so pathological, calculating and down right... evil (for lack of a better word). 

Damien, formerly known as C-man...

What happened the other night is a sign that 2007 will officially be the worst year on record or a sign that 2008 is going to be the worst year ever.  I pray it is the latter, but honestly believe I'm wrong about that.

C-man (my stepson) is now going to be called Damien on this blog.  Forgive me folks if I sound harsh in this post but the pain of THE GIANT KNIFE IN MY HEART betrayal by Damien is still fresh.   Remember Damien is going to be 9 years old next month.  He is not a baby.  This is the kid who reached up our pastors teen age daughters shorts in bible school and grabbed her butt cheek.  For those of you new readers, we just got custody of him from his mother last year.  OK here it goes...

Christmas Eve his mother picked him up for her visitation.  She gets him from Dec 24th at 10pm until Jan. 6th.  This past Thursday night at 11:35pm just as my husband and I were getting ready for bed Damien calls.  He states very strongly that he "IS GOING TO LIVE WITH (HIS) MOTHER!".  He states, "And there's NOTHING  you (my husband) can do about it".  My husband tells him that he is only 9 years old and that he (my husband) has sole custody for a reason and that he (Damien) has no choice in the matter.  Damien starts screaming, "just you watch and see with your little eyes!".  My husband says what are you going to do start making up lies about us with your mother?  And he says VERY COLD BLOODED like, "if that's what it takes".  My husband says, "why do you want to live with your mother?"  That's when Damien started lying.  Oh wait first there was the list of things she gave him. 

1. She gave him a cell phone
2. She bought him a motorcycle
3. She GIVES HIM BATHS (sound familiar?)

THEN he starts lying.  ABOUT ME!!!!!!!!!!  He threw me under the bus, stabbed me in the back for a track phone and a battery operated motorcyle!!!!!!! He says that I spank him all the time!  I HAVE NEVER SPANKED THAT CHILD.  EVER!  On MANY occasions when I have called my husband at work to tell him things Damien has been doing, my husband has told me to spank him and I said "NO.  I have had DHS up my @#$% over here too many times because of the #$%^ lies his mother has told.  I AM NOT LAYING A HAND ON THAT KID".  I ALWAYS sent him to his room and if his dad wanted to spank him when he got home he did.  I DON'T SPANK OTHER PEOPLE'S CHILDREN.  But Damien is on the phone (on speaker) saying I spank him all the time and when I said, "I have never spanked you, Damien and you know it!"  AND THEN TO SHOVE THE KNIFE IN DEEPER Damien starts screaming that I'M a liar!!  He's screaming I'M a liar when both he and I know HE'S the one lying!!  Not one mention of the 100 spankings his dad has given him.  He just starts lying about ME.  I mean for GOD'S SAKE, he has enough stories about all the spankings he's gotten from his dad but NOT ONE MENTION of it!  He starts making up @#$% lies about ME!  He starts saying that I DRUG him across the house by his ear!!!  If I DRUG a 70 pound kid across this big house by his ear he would have had a busted ear drum or a bruised ear or a DETACTHED EAR!!  I am FURIOUS.  My husband says when he gets him home he's taking him to a psychiatrist (ABOUT TIME!).  But I am seriously going to need counseling to figure out how to live in the same house with that little lying, backstabbing child.  How am I going to hold my tongue from screaming "get away from me!!" when he tries to talk to me?  Prayer.  Lot's of prayer!

I'm calling my doctor on Wednesday and getting Valium.  Because I'm going to have to be sedated to live in this house with that kid. 

I'm sure that some of you are thinking this is just him repeating his EVIL MOTHER.  But the voice of that kid Thursday night sounded like it was ALL HIM with maybe a small pinch of her prodding.

Right now I am TERRIFIED of what those two (him and his mother) are going to do or say to the authorities so she can get him back.  I'm scared of him.  I told my husband if he comes back in this house he is to NEVER leave me alone with him.  I want a witness at all times!

Maybe next week I'll feel differently but for today...

I only have three children.

Howdy ya'll...

Nothing much has been going on around here except the usual things that happen around Christmas.  Like stress.  Well we did sell our old house today.  That was a HUGE load off our minds.  Apparently the housing market sucks and we are lucky to have sold it so quickly because the appraisal value of the house went down $5,000 in just the past 7 months!  It was a little awkward at the closing with Hubby's ex girlfriend being the buyer but I handled it with the grace that I am famous for (HA!) and everything went smoothly.

We are having the family over for Christmas on Sunday afternoon because C-man goes to his mothers house from Christmas Eve until the 6th of January.  It will be really quiet without him here for those weeks.  T-man got his first job starting tonight at the local grocery store so Hubby and I will have a lot of alone time, I guess.  That will be nice.

The city got audited this past week.  It was a harrowing nerve racking three days.  And they were auditing from July 1, 2006 to June 30, 2007.  I wasn't even in office during any of that time so it was a nightmare trying to answer all the questions of what and why things were done.  Apparently the past two clerks (they had two in one year and this position is a six year term!) weren't doing so good.  I think I heard the auditors say a couple of times "Didn't that woman know how to count?!!!" when speaking of one of them.  The other one was an embezzler so of course there were a lot of missing documents and questions I just couldn't answer.

Oh yeah, and on top of it all the water dept. head quit and gave the city 5 days notice.  His last day was today.  This city I live in has a total of 10 city employees of which I and the utilities clerk are two of them and 5 of them are police officers.  That leaves 3 city employees who do streets and water.  One of those is almost 70 yrs old and works part time and the other was just hired less than two months ago.  So the guy who resigned has been there 7 years and is the only one who knows how to run the water plant for our town.  God help us if the plant goes down before we can get someone else trained.

Well it's getting late and i'm getting tired.  Tomorrow I VOW I will spent the morning reading all your blogs and commenting on everyone!  If by the end of the day I have missed your blog comment here and tell me to get my ass over there!!  I am only visiting those I see on my sidebar so if you're not there yet comment me and tell me to add you!

One of my favorite things...

  I seriously love Blazer Hockey.  Last night we went to a game.  They lost.  But I still love it.  The screaming like a maniac.  The beer.  The chocolate covered pecans.  The beer.  The cinnamon covered walnuts.  The hockey fights.  The beer.  The sexy hockey players.  Did I mention the beer?  I only like beer at hockey games.  Don't ask me why, I can't explain it.

My favorite player right now is Mike Burgoyne.

Well that's it.  I just thought I mention I LOVE....

Anyone up for a pig nose match?

My husband and I like to wrestle.  Not nasty wrestling you pervs, but fully clothed hair pulling, bending fingers back wrestling.  We don't hurt each other (much) but it's fun.  But now we have come up with Pig Nose Wrestling.  The object is to start wrestling and see how many times we can give each other the pig nose. Actually I don't even need the excuse to start wrestling.  I have been known to sneek up behind him while he's on the computer or while he's sleeping and give him the pig nose.  So far today the score is Squirrel 2 Hubby 1.  

Homemade Christmas ornaments...

I'm just feeling all crafty today.  I made these in a few minutes for my daughters boyfriends beautiful children.  I think i'll make some more  this was so fun!  More pictures later tonight...

Update:

Here's some more!

Bulletssssssss...

• Things have been so quiet around here it's almost scary.  I feel like any moment Rabid Squirrel is going to do some evil doing.  C-man has to go over there at 10 pm Christmas Eve and doesn't come home until the day before school starts in January.  I'm sure she will have him throughly examined for child abuse and molestation, taken to a psychiatrist, a lawyer, DHS and any and all other places she might think help her regain custody.  Poor kid.

• We sold our old house!!  We close around Dec. 15th.  The realtor had this mystery potential buyer and she wouldn't tell us the woman's name.  Then after the woman decided she wanted the house we found out it is one of my husbands ex girlfriends (who he broke up with under very bad terms to say the least) from 12 years ago.  Apparently she's been living just a few streets over for the past two years and my teen age son is friends with her daughter and we didn't know it.

• The city is being audited in two weeks.  I'm about to have a breakdown at work trying to get everything on their list ready before they get there.

• You know you go out to eat way too much when the owner of a restaurant calls you at work and asks if she made you mad because she hasn't seen you in the past couple of weeks.  Yeah, that happened to me today.  I told her things were just a little tight right now with having two house payments.  I said we'll be back to supporting her family next month.  No, I didn't say that.  But it's true.  I bet we spent three hundred and fifty dollars a month in that place easily.  God, I suck.  I really need to cook more often. *Sigh*

A meme!

I found this meme on Musings of a Manic Mom.  I thought it was interesting so I thought I would do it too.  Anyone else who wants to just copy and paste it into your post and let me know in the comments so I can come check it out...

What kind of soap is in your bathtub right now? We have 2 bathrooms. The kids use one, we use the other. In the kids bathroom, the soap is Island Spring antibacterial body wash. I use Soft Soap Shea butter body wash and Ivory soap for my face.  My husband uses Axe body wash.

Do you have any watermelon in your refrigerator? Not at the moment, but during watermelon season I usually do.

What would you change about your living room? Maybe new carpet and fresh paint.  I just bought new living room furniture so I don't want that now.  Oh yes, new lamps.

Are the dishes in your dishwasher clean or dirty? Currently my dishwasher is loaded and running on the wash cycle.

What is in your fridge? Leftovers from Thanksgiving that need thrown out.  A package of hamburger meat I just took out of the freezer, some milk and Diet Pepsi.

White or wheat bread? White.  Sunbeam Texas Giant.

What is on top of your refrigerator? Plastic bin with Thanksgiving decorations and a plastic bag with Thanksgiving napkins and paper plates.

What color or design is on your shower curtain? In one bathroom  (mine) is a burgandy and gold fabric shower curtain with a clear plastic one behind it.  In the other bathroom is a beach themed curtain with seagulls and light houses on it.

How many plants are in your home? One.  An Ivy that must desperately want to live because I've had it for 7 years and it hasn't grown at all.  Maybe it might be a little smaller now.  I have a brown thumb.

Is your bed made right now? No i'm bad about now making it very often uless someone is coming over.  My husband has been giving people the tour of the new house a lot lately and I'm always rushing in there to make it before he gets to that room.

Comet or Soft Scrub? Neither.  I use something call The Works.  No scrubbing at all needed for this great stuff!

Is your closet organized? It's a disaster.

Can you describe your flashlight? A foot long and silver and heavy.  Oh and a plastic big blue one.

Do you drink out of glass or plastic most of the time at home? Glass.  Plastic gets on my nerves for some reason.  My husband had a collection of every fast food plastic cup across the country I think.  I threw them all away.  Kinda pissed him off but I really don't care. :)

Do you have iced tea made in a pitcher right now? No. I hate iced tea.  I only like Camomile Tea and mint tea.  Hot.

If you have a garage, is it cluttered? Yes we have a garage and we cannot park in it. Does that answer the question?

Curtains or blinds? Vertical Blinds.  They came with the house.

How many pillows do you sleep with? Four.  Four for him and four for me.  I sleep on two and use one between my knees.  The other one usually ends up on the floor, but I use it when watching tv at night.

Do you sleep with any lights on at night? Hall light.

How often do you vacuum? I hate to vacuum.  I make my teen do it, maybe once a week.

Standard toothbrush or electric? Standard

What color is your toothbrush? It’s white and pink.

Do you have a welcome mat on your front porch? No but now that you mention it I need one.

What is in your oven right now? Nothing.

Is there anything under your bed? Shoes.

Chore you hate doing the most? Cleaning the tub and the shower and the toilets.

What retro items are in your home? Records and record player.

Do you have a separate room that you use as an office? Yep.

How many mirrors are in your home? 4

Do you have any hidden emergency money around your home? No.  just a change jar.

What color are your walls? White.

Do you keep any kind of protection weapons in your home? A gun with no bullets. None.  A lot of good it will be.  I guess I could throw it at them.

What does your home smell like right now? Hamburger.  I just cooked two.

Favorite candle scent? Vanilla.

What kind of pickles (if any) are in your refrigerator right now? Hamburger pickles.

What color is your favorite Bible? Tan and brown.

Ever been on your roof? Nope and I don’t plan to.

Do you own a stereo? Yep.

How many TVs do you have? 3

How many house phones? 2

Do you have a housekeeper? My kids and my husband.

What style do you decorate in? No real style. Just stuff I like and have collected over the years.

Do you like solid colors in furniture or prints? I definitely prefer solids.

Is there a smoke detector in your home? Not yet.  We are going to get some and some carbon monoxide detectors this week.

In case of fire, what are the items in your house which you’d grab if you only could make one quick trip? Kids and husband first.  Photo albums and clothing if I have time.

Nay sayer....

Today was kind of a lazy day for me.  The Little League had a bake sale today and I made chocolate chip cookies cookies for it last night.  My husband is the president of the Little League.  I flat out refused to sit at the bake sale today for several reasons.  One is that the vice president and the secretary of the league are women that don't want to talk to my husband about league matters and always want to call me and have me relay the messages to my husband.  One of these women owns a business a few doors down from city hall and likes to come down there and try and talk to me about the league fund raisers and other things.  The other day she came in and was doing just this and I stopped her and said "Look, this Little League stuff is my husbands thing.  I really don't know anything about it so why don't I give you his cell number and you can call him and make all these arrangements".  She says this "Oh I have his cell number I just didn't want to bother him at work".  HELLOOOO, Einstein,  you are telling me this whilst bothering ME at work! DOH!  So I write down my husbands cell phone, his work phone and our home number and tell her to call him anytime.  I am up to my ears in volunteering for things.  Football season is over and I did my stint as team mom the last two years.  It's time someone else step up to the plate during the off season.  I volunteer at the church for the children's "Team Kids" Wednesday night services.  I teach children's Sunday School.  I have to learn to say no more often or else I would have no time for myself at all. 

Now that I've practiced my speech on you, I think I can do it! LOL.