Damien, formerly known as C-man...

What happened the other night is a sign that 2007 will officially be the worst year on record or a sign that 2008 is going to be the worst year ever.  I pray it is the latter, but honestly believe I'm wrong about that.

C-man (my stepson) is now going to be called Damien on this blog.  Forgive me folks if I sound harsh in this post but the pain of THE GIANT KNIFE IN MY HEART betrayal by Damien is still fresh.   Remember Damien is going to be 9 years old next month.  He is not a baby.  This is the kid who reached up our pastors teen age daughters shorts in bible school and grabbed her butt cheek.  For those of you new readers, we just got custody of him from his mother last year.  OK here it goes...

Christmas Eve his mother picked him up for her visitation.  She gets him from Dec 24th at 10pm until Jan. 6th.  This past Thursday night at 11:35pm just as my husband and I were getting ready for bed Damien calls.  He states very strongly that he "IS GOING TO LIVE WITH (HIS) MOTHER!".  He states, "And there's NOTHING  you (my husband) can do about it".  My husband tells him that he is only 9 years old and that he (my husband) has sole custody for a reason and that he (Damien) has no choice in the matter.  Damien starts screaming, "just you watch and see with your little eyes!".  My husband says what are you going to do start making up lies about us with your mother?  And he says VERY COLD BLOODED like, "if that's what it takes".  My husband says, "why do you want to live with your mother?"  That's when Damien started lying.  Oh wait first there was the list of things she gave him. 

1. She gave him a cell phone
2. She bought him a motorcycle
3. She GIVES HIM BATHS (sound familiar?)

THEN he starts lying.  ABOUT ME!!!!!!!!!!  He threw me under the bus, stabbed me in the back for a track phone and a battery operated motorcyle!!!!!!! He says that I spank him all the time!  I HAVE NEVER SPANKED THAT CHILD.  EVER!  On MANY occasions when I have called my husband at work to tell him things Damien has been doing, my husband has told me to spank him and I said "NO.  I have had DHS up my @#$% over here too many times because of the #$%^ lies his mother has told.  I AM NOT LAYING A HAND ON THAT KID".  I ALWAYS sent him to his room and if his dad wanted to spank him when he got home he did.  I DON'T SPANK OTHER PEOPLE'S CHILDREN.  But Damien is on the phone (on speaker) saying I spank him all the time and when I said, "I have never spanked you, Damien and you know it!"  AND THEN TO SHOVE THE KNIFE IN DEEPER Damien starts screaming that I'M a liar!!  He's screaming I'M a liar when both he and I know HE'S the one lying!!  Not one mention of the 100 spankings his dad has given him.  He just starts lying about ME.  I mean for GOD'S SAKE, he has enough stories about all the spankings he's gotten from his dad but NOT ONE MENTION of it!  He starts making up @#$% lies about ME!  He starts saying that I DRUG him across the house by his ear!!!  If I DRUG a 70 pound kid across this big house by his ear he would have had a busted ear drum or a bruised ear or a DETACTHED EAR!!  I am FURIOUS.  My husband says when he gets him home he's taking him to a psychiatrist (ABOUT TIME!).  But I am seriously going to need counseling to figure out how to live in the same house with that little lying, backstabbing child.  How am I going to hold my tongue from screaming "get away from me!!" when he tries to talk to me?  Prayer.  Lot's of prayer!

I'm calling my doctor on Wednesday and getting Valium.  Because I'm going to have to be sedated to live in this house with that kid. 

I'm sure that some of you are thinking this is just him repeating his EVIL MOTHER.  But the voice of that kid Thursday night sounded like it was ALL HIM with maybe a small pinch of her prodding.

Right now I am TERRIFIED of what those two (him and his mother) are going to do or say to the authorities so she can get him back.  I'm scared of him.  I told my husband if he comes back in this house he is to NEVER leave me alone with him.  I want a witness at all times!

Maybe next week I'll feel differently but for today...

I only have three children.

Comments

[Jean-Luc Picard]

Squirrel, 'Damien' is a good name for your stepson. He has been given a lot of disinformation which he has taken in. It's hard to make him see the truth.

[lone grey squirrel]

Sorry to hear about your current problem. Sounds like C-man/Damien is really all messed up. You need all the help you can get. Counseling is good and prayer is necessary. You and your husband must resolve together not to let Damien drive you two apart. Pray together for wisdom, patience, love and for God's leading in this matter. I wish you the best and I will pray for a better year for you and your family.

[Squirrel]

Jean-Luc: I have loved that boy since I laid eye's on him 6 years ago. But obviously all my love, devotion and attention meant nothing to him if he's willing to throw me under the bus for a cell phone and a battery operated motorcyle!

LGS: I will pray a lot! Sorry about all the $%^& cussing on the post. I guess it just made me feel better for a minute. My heart is broken. Obviously the boy doesn't love me at all.

[Erin]

Wow - this is never going to end is it :( I know that you guys fought like hell to get him, but maybe its time that you just let him live with her. Is that horrible to say? It probably is, but jeesh, there is only so much you can take!!

[TrishK]

You definitely need to be sure that you are NEVER alone with the child. A witness should be present at all times. You may want to consider one of those Nanny cams for evidence.

So sorry all this crap is hitting you during the holidays. Not A Grampy is a step father, he had to put up with some real garbaage from my ex also. Luckily my ex tried to put the kids up to stuff but they didn't play his "game" the way he wanted them to.

I will keep you in my thoughts and send good vibes to you all!!!

[Mr. Fabulous]

Wow...I guess it's time to maybe consider that whatever is wrong with her may have been passed to him?

[cassee01]

Maybe the best thing to do is talk to DHS about this and ask them what actions you should take? That way you are being proactive and involving them before she gets a chance?