Squirrel Is In

A look into the eyes of evil...

My hubby is out of town for the night and I made him take C-man out to his dads house.  I think the inlaws are thinking i'm being ridiculous but if it was my 9 yr old daughter making up lies about Hubby they wouldn't want me leaving him alone with her.  Why should it be any different because C-man's a boy?

How odd! When I posted this photo of Rabid Squirrel I had a link to the post back in Nov 06 when she got arrested and this mugshot was taken but I just noticed today that it wasn't there.  Anyway, this photo is of C-man's mother (slightly altered by moi).  She only spent one night in jail for stealing a cell phone from a cellular store.

This kids got some serious problems...

Today C-man went to see the psychiatrist. 

He immediatly started talking like a baby.

He tried to act like he had no clue why he was there.

He was asked about his mothers drug use and he said that the marijuana he found in her room was really cabbage and he put it in her room.

Whe he was asked about his mother abusing him he said he had no memory of it but when pushed he got mad and said "but it was only a small vacumm she threw at me, only two pounds!".

When asked why he was mad he said that it was because he wanted to stay at his mothers two weeks and his dads two weeks because he doesn't have time to have fun with his friends at his mothers over only a weekend.

In the car on the way there out of the dead silence with Boston playing in the background he said "If I promise to stop lying about you guys, will you promise not to make me get a hair cut?  Because I want to grow my hair long.".

The psychiatrist said he doesn't need meds right now but he referred him to a therapist with a PHD.  The next appointment is on January 24.

I'm numb with fear for the future.

Wow who knew typing bullets could feel so good...

Short summary of whats going on.

• On the 4th of January Rabid Squirrel took C-man in front of a judge for an emergency hearing saying we were physically abusing C-man
• C-man must have told the judge the truth that we were not abusing him because the judge threw it out
• Rabid's lawyer walked out of court and filed a motion to modify the custody agreement
• C-man came home on the 6th of January and acted as if nothing had happened
• When we asked him if he had been taken to see a lawyer he lied and said no
• At this point we had no clue that he had been taken in front of a judge
• When we asked him why he lied about me spanking him he said that his mother did not make him say it and he guessed he was just a lying little shit
• I got mad and told him that (my bio kids) would never make up lies about me and not to call me mom any more
• 15 minutes later he came into my room and told me his mother told him that if he made up lies about me that he would come live with her and they would get a lot of money from his dad and she would give him some of it
• I told him thank you for telling me the truth and told him it was wrong to lie about people and that it hurt my feelings really bad and if he was sorry for lying about me that he could call me mom again
• He's calling me mom again
• We made an appointment with a child psychologist and he and my husband and myself are going to see the doctor on Tuesday morning
• We have court on Valentines Day
• Our lawyer filed a reply to their RIDICULOUS child abuse claims and is asking that Rabid pay our legal bills and start paying child support
• One of the reasons for her motion to modify is that she states that my husband has remarried.  HELLO we have been married almost 6 freaking years!!
• Another claim she is making is that I and my husband are physically and emotionally abusing him
• She is asking for limited supervised visitation for my husband
• She is asking to claim C-man on her income taxes
• She hasn't filed income taxes in 7 years since she filed with my husband because she gets SSI and does not work
• The reason she wants it put in the papers that she can claim him is because she and C-man would be dependants of her mother whom she lives with and she wants her mother to be able to claim C-man on her taxes
• I just noticed that my husband did not ask his lawyer to ask for Rabid to get limited supervised visitation!!
• And last but not least by any stretch of the imagination...
• I AM SICK TO F*&*% OF ALL THIS DRAMA!

Please send all your prayers and good thoughts my way!!

C-man is coming home today at 6pm.  Rabid Squirrel called and told my husband that she is going shopping and will be driving past here on her way home so she will just bring him home instead of us having to pick him up.  C-man got on the phone with my husband and said something like "I love you daddy, I can't wait to see you." and "I can't wait to get home".  How freaking weird is THAT?!!!  Just over a week ago he is screaming he is living with his mother and now this.  Those two are up to something and I for one, am scared.  We pulled him from daycare and now one of his friends mother is going to be watching him after school.  That was one of the reasons he didn't want to live with us.  He hated that daycare.  He was very happy to hear that.  Then my husband called him the other day and told him that Santa brought a basketball goal and an air hockey table.  Maybe that's why he has changed his mind, I don't know.  At least that's what I'd like to think.  But honestly I think that he really wants to live with her and him and his mother have some evil plan cooked up.  My husband is calling the help line at work tomorrow about getting a referral for psychiatric care for the boy.  Maybe it isn't too late.

Happy New Year to ALL OF YOU!!

Thank all of you wonderful folks who have listened to my rants and raves over the past year.  You all listened to me and held your tongues when I was probably out of line, knowing that I would eventually come to my senses.  You gave me advise when I really, really needed it.  You at times just told me you were praying for me when you didn't know what to say.  Then there are those of you who I know are reading but don't say a word, I know you all care because you keep coming back to check on me.  Thank you.  Thank you all and have a great New Years Eve and New Years Day.  Have a great 2008!

Here's to you!

My eyes are swelled almost shut....

My emotions are all over the place.  Today I can't stop crying because I am so heartbroken.  I just cannot believe he started lying about me.  One minute I just want to move out into my own apartment with T-man to get away from this nightmare. The next I want to just get him back and put him into counseling or maybe an in-patient facility for children.  My mother-in-law suggested that.  Not that I hadn't thought it already, I just hadn't said it out-loud.  My stepson (today I don't know what to call him.  C-man was a term of endearment on this blog and Damien sounds so harsh) is showing signs (more obvious signs) of mental illness or severe emotional problems at the very least, everyday.  His mother is getting a check from SSI for mental illness and so is my husbands real mother.  Maybe he has inherited something.  Or maybe living with his mother for the first 7 years of his life has done such damage that... well I don't want to think it is permanent but it seems like nothing and no amount of love is changing it.  He just seems to be getting more troubled and dangerous.  He absolutely knows what these kind of accusations could do.  We have told him that if his mother tries to get him to lie about us to tell us immediately because one of us could be thrown into prison, that we could lose our jobs and our home.  Yet he went over there and started making false child abuse accusations.  It just seems so pathological, calculating and down right... evil (for lack of a better word). 

Damien, formerly known as C-man...

What happened the other night is a sign that 2007 will officially be the worst year on record or a sign that 2008 is going to be the worst year ever.  I pray it is the latter, but honestly believe I'm wrong about that.

C-man (my stepson) is now going to be called Damien on this blog.  Forgive me folks if I sound harsh in this post but the pain of THE GIANT KNIFE IN MY HEART betrayal by Damien is still fresh.   Remember Damien is going to be 9 years old next month.  He is not a baby.  This is the kid who reached up our pastors teen age daughters shorts in bible school and grabbed her butt cheek.  For those of you new readers, we just got custody of him from his mother last year.  OK here it goes...

Christmas Eve his mother picked him up for her visitation.  She gets him from Dec 24th at 10pm until Jan. 6th.  This past Thursday night at 11:35pm just as my husband and I were getting ready for bed Damien calls.  He states very strongly that he "IS GOING TO LIVE WITH (HIS) MOTHER!".  He states, "And there's NOTHING  you (my husband) can do about it".  My husband tells him that he is only 9 years old and that he (my husband) has sole custody for a reason and that he (Damien) has no choice in the matter.  Damien starts screaming, "just you watch and see with your little eyes!".  My husband says what are you going to do start making up lies about us with your mother?  And he says VERY COLD BLOODED like, "if that's what it takes".  My husband says, "why do you want to live with your mother?"  That's when Damien started lying.  Oh wait first there was the list of things she gave him. 

1. She gave him a cell phone
2. She bought him a motorcycle
3. She GIVES HIM BATHS (sound familiar?)

THEN he starts lying.  ABOUT ME!!!!!!!!!!  He threw me under the bus, stabbed me in the back for a track phone and a battery operated motorcyle!!!!!!! He says that I spank him all the time!  I HAVE NEVER SPANKED THAT CHILD.  EVER!  On MANY occasions when I have called my husband at work to tell him things Damien has been doing, my husband has told me to spank him and I said "NO.  I have had DHS up my @#$% over here too many times because of the #$%^ lies his mother has told.  I AM NOT LAYING A HAND ON THAT KID".  I ALWAYS sent him to his room and if his dad wanted to spank him when he got home he did.  I DON'T SPANK OTHER PEOPLE'S CHILDREN.  But Damien is on the phone (on speaker) saying I spank him all the time and when I said, "I have never spanked you, Damien and you know it!"  AND THEN TO SHOVE THE KNIFE IN DEEPER Damien starts screaming that I'M a liar!!  He's screaming I'M a liar when both he and I know HE'S the one lying!!  Not one mention of the 100 spankings his dad has given him.  He just starts lying about ME.  I mean for GOD'S SAKE, he has enough stories about all the spankings he's gotten from his dad but NOT ONE MENTION of it!  He starts making up @#$% lies about ME!  He starts saying that I DRUG him across the house by his ear!!!  If I DRUG a 70 pound kid across this big house by his ear he would have had a busted ear drum or a bruised ear or a DETACTHED EAR!!  I am FURIOUS.  My husband says when he gets him home he's taking him to a psychiatrist (ABOUT TIME!).  But I am seriously going to need counseling to figure out how to live in the same house with that little lying, backstabbing child.  How am I going to hold my tongue from screaming "get away from me!!" when he tries to talk to me?  Prayer.  Lot's of prayer!

I'm calling my doctor on Wednesday and getting Valium.  Because I'm going to have to be sedated to live in this house with that kid. 

I'm sure that some of you are thinking this is just him repeating his EVIL MOTHER.  But the voice of that kid Thursday night sounded like it was ALL HIM with maybe a small pinch of her prodding.

Right now I am TERRIFIED of what those two (him and his mother) are going to do or say to the authorities so she can get him back.  I'm scared of him.  I told my husband if he comes back in this house he is to NEVER leave me alone with him.  I want a witness at all times!

Maybe next week I'll feel differently but for today...

I only have three children.

Howdy ya'll...

Nothing much has been going on around here except the usual things that happen around Christmas.  Like stress.  Well we did sell our old house today.  That was a HUGE load off our minds.  Apparently the housing market sucks and we are lucky to have sold it so quickly because the appraisal value of the house went down $5,000 in just the past 7 months!  It was a little awkward at the closing with Hubby's ex girlfriend being the buyer but I handled it with the grace that I am famous for (HA!) and everything went smoothly.

We are having the family over for Christmas on Sunday afternoon because C-man goes to his mothers house from Christmas Eve until the 6th of January.  It will be really quiet without him here for those weeks.  T-man got his first job starting tonight at the local grocery store so Hubby and I will have a lot of alone time, I guess.  That will be nice.

The city got audited this past week.  It was a harrowing nerve racking three days.  And they were auditing from July 1, 2006 to June 30, 2007.  I wasn't even in office during any of that time so it was a nightmare trying to answer all the questions of what and why things were done.  Apparently the past two clerks (they had two in one year and this position is a six year term!) weren't doing so good.  I think I heard the auditors say a couple of times "Didn't that woman know how to count?!!!" when speaking of one of them.  The other one was an embezzler so of course there were a lot of missing documents and questions I just couldn't answer.

Oh yeah, and on top of it all the water dept. head quit and gave the city 5 days notice.  His last day was today.  This city I live in has a total of 10 city employees of which I and the utilities clerk are two of them and 5 of them are police officers.  That leaves 3 city employees who do streets and water.  One of those is almost 70 yrs old and works part time and the other was just hired less than two months ago.  So the guy who resigned has been there 7 years and is the only one who knows how to run the water plant for our town.  God help us if the plant goes down before we can get someone else trained.

Well it's getting late and i'm getting tired.  Tomorrow I VOW I will spent the morning reading all your blogs and commenting on everyone!  If by the end of the day I have missed your blog comment here and tell me to get my ass over there!!  I am only visiting those I see on my sidebar so if you're not there yet comment me and tell me to add you!

One of my favorite things...

  I seriously love Blazer Hockey.  Last night we went to a game.  They lost.  But I still love it.  The screaming like a maniac.  The beer.  The chocolate covered pecans.  The beer.  The cinnamon covered walnuts.  The hockey fights.  The beer.  The sexy hockey players.  Did I mention the beer?  I only like beer at hockey games.  Don't ask me why, I can't explain it.

My favorite player right now is Mike Burgoyne.

Well that's it.  I just thought I mention I LOVE....

Anyone up for a pig nose match?

My husband and I like to wrestle.  Not nasty wrestling you pervs, but fully clothed hair pulling, bending fingers back wrestling.  We don't hurt each other (much) but it's fun.  But now we have come up with Pig Nose Wrestling.  The object is to start wrestling and see how many times we can give each other the pig nose. Actually I don't even need the excuse to start wrestling.  I have been known to sneek up behind him while he's on the computer or while he's sleeping and give him the pig nose.  So far today the score is Squirrel 2 Hubby 1.